Sunday, October 12, 2008
When to put up the privacy curtains? You've just received a friend request from you Mom on Facebook...
Ok, just your average day, open up your email to find a Facebook request from you Mom. Yes, your completely and adult, nothing to hide, so no reason not to right? Right? Well, not so fast, I think. Why the hesitation? Maybe its because you also friend lots of people from work and don't want you mom posting weird things like "Miss you Honey, Oh, you look so cute! -Love you Mom", "When are you going to come visit? - It's been too long, Mom", "do you want a crock-pot? Love, itchy poo" and any other number of weird things and topics. It's not so much you don't want her to see your stuff or read stuff about your friends. However, it's more like you don't want your friends and co-workers reading stuff from you mom, reading your mom's profile, etc. Then again her finding out about the two business trips you've taken right near her hometown via your status messages, might not be so easy to brush over. So what's next twitter? That will be interesting. I say you make a rule, the most diplomatic way possible. When it comes down to friending your mom, de-friend all your family (so no one feels left out) and tell them, I would like to keep my personal life private not from my family, but from everyone else. There, problem solved.
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Sometimes I am really grateful that my mom is not technologically inclined. She uses email, and that's helpful for communication, but despite asking me lots of questions about my Livejournal, has never asked to see it. Which is good, because there is a ton of stuff there I'd rather she not read!
I think you're right, you do sometimes have to keep different spheres of your life separate, it's in everyone's best interests. =P
So you are saying that when we sign up for facebook accounts, I shouldn't friend my 20 year old daughter, huh?
Here's the mom perspective. All moms, no matter how well meaning, sometimes say things that embarrass their daughters. At some point, you have to just say, "yeah, that's my mom." Your coworkers, will understand since they too, much to their chagrin, are called sweetie pie in public once in a while by their moms. :-) Good Luck!
Hysterical. I have flair that says "Facebook Mom", even though I am thankful that my kids are too little to be on here. I originally joined to harass my youngest brother & my 2 college-student nieces, way back when you had to have a .edu e-mail address. Now that anyone can join, half my family is on there (neither of my parents, though). I am finding it a little stressful handling the friend/family dynamic, especially with comments showing up all over the place.
I have found it useful to block my wall from certain relatives (forcing them to msg me) and to block my photos from certain relatives (who insist on tagging me in MY photos that I obviously would have tagged if I wanted to). Just a suggestion for ways to keep the family separate from the friends without de-friending anybody.
Also, I hear the status issue...now I have to call my MA sister when I'll be in the area and explain why I don't have time to see her (but I did that before Facebook).
Good luck!!
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